Encouragement for the singles


Yes, marriage is a blessing and it is good to be married, no doubts about that. But being single on the other hand is not necessarily a bad thing, it is not a curse neither is it a sin or a disease. But rushing into marriage can be a very bad thing. Your age does not matter to God. Whenever the time is right for him, he will bless you with the right person as long as you wait on him. If Abraham and Sarah’s age didn’t matter to God when he blessed them with Isaac, why should yours be a problem?

He makes all things beautiful in his time. God’s time is the best, all he needs from us is obedience to his words, trust and patience. Waiting on God is never an easy thing to do, but it’s worth it at the end of the end of the day.

Do not rush into marriage for any reason whatsoever, be it peer pressure, family pressure or simply because you feel you aren’t getting any younger, because you will definitely regret it later in life. 99% of the people I know who got into marriage out of desperation are regretting it today. Some of them want out, while some are just waiting for an opportunity to quit, and the others are wishing that they were still single.

A married friend of mine once told me that she envied me, and when I asked her why, guess what her response to me was: “She said I envy you because you still have better opportunity to make the right choice”. I wish I was still single like you.

Enjoy your single hood while it last, because as soon as you get married you will never have that opportunity again. If you have a good job, get a good apartment,  get a car if you can afford one. Just live well.  In Africa, people believe that men run away from single ladies who live well. But that is a lie, I have seen single ladies who lived well and still got married to wealthy men. I have also seen ladies who lived like poppers and either couldn’t find a man or ended up with a poor man. Everything is in God’s hands, he decides.

The scripture says in Romans 9:15-16 “I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion. So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that showeth mercy.

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