THE PERFECT WOMAN
I went over to our room to try and apologise to my husband for sleeping off before his return and so that we could also make up. When I got there, I discovered that he locked the room door. I knocked and knocked but he wouldn’t open. And so I went into the other room and I laid there wondering what exactly I did wrong.
I didnt even know or remember how to pray. It wasn’t long before I slept off.
The sharp pain on my back woke me up. Isaiah kicked me.
Isaiah: wake up, dont make me believe that I married a lazy woman o.
Me: Jesus! Honey why did you boot me like that?
Isaiah: Are you asking me questions? What is the time?
Me: I dont understand, its 5.30am
Isaiah: why responsible wife will be in bed at 5.30am.
I was shocked at my husbands behaviour. I didnt understand what was happening?
Me: Honey I dont understand what is happening or why you are acting like this. When do we normally wake up? You are the one who even tells me to sleep till 7am that i don’t have a baby whom am rushing to school to be waking up early so why this why did you suddenly start saying I should wake up 5:30am.
Isaiah: so if I asked you to jump in a latrine, you will do it. I asked you to wake up by 7 and you really want to wake up by 7. What is your problem sef? Are you even alright?
I was just looking at my husband talk because I was still in doubt if he was the one talking or not.
Me: Honey calm down, I will get up now. Dont be offended.
I stood up and went to the kitchen and I prepared his water to bath. Then I made tea and fried eggs with bread for him. After setting the table I called him. He came to the dining and opened the food. I took my seat opposite him. As soon as he took a bite of bread and egg he spits it out. I was shocked.
Isaiah: What is this? Jesus, what is this?
Me: (shocked) what is it honey?
Isaiah: so you dont know how to fry eggs, common egg you can’t fry.
I looked at him and then the eggs , then I took a fork and took a bite of the egg and there was nothing wrong with it.
Me: Honey but there is nothing wrong with the eggs.
The next thing i receives was a hot slap on my cheeks. I fell on the ground and hit my stomach. I burst into tears.
Isaiah: you dont talk when I talk, stupid! Eat your nonsense. Rubbish!
He storms out of the house and even though I kept calling him back to come help me he didnt look back. Then I felt it flowing from my legs. I touched it and it was blood. I screamed in pains as I managed to stand up. I quickly grabbed a wrapper and rushed outside. Isaiah had driven off, and so I begged our neighbour to please take me to the hospital when the doctor saw me he asked that I should be taken into the emergency unit immediately.
I was laid in a stretcher and rolled into one of the rooms, I didnt know what the nurses and doctors were saying or doing but I could see them faintly running up and down, I could see them like shadows, I felt like sleeping and I didnt struggle to stay awake I quietly allowed the sleep take me.
I woke up few hours later to meet the faces of smiling doctors and nurses, I was feeling very weak.
Me: Doctor what is happening? Why was I bleeding?
Doctor: calm down dear, what really happened?
I didnt want to tell them or anyone that my husband slapped just less than two months after our wedding.
Me: I fell down in the house, I tripped and fell.
The doctor looked at me as if he knew I was not saying the truth.
Doctor: well madam, please be careful next time. If you were brought here another 5mins late you would have lost the baby.
Me: Baby? What baby?
Doctor: Madam, you are six weeks pregnant.
Me: (surprised) am pregnant? (Tears flowed from my eyes, I forgot the pains and hurt that my husband had caused me, at least he will be happy to learn that I am pregnant). Doctor, I am pregnant. God bless you doctor, thank you doctor.
Doctor: its okay madam, but you cannot go home for now. You will have to remain on bed rest for the next three days so that you will be very strong before you go home.
Me: Yes doctor! But can I call my husband and inform him.
Doctor: sure madam, you can.
I greeted the doctor and nurses as they left. Excitedly I picked my phone and I dialed my husband’s number. I waited for him to pick the calls, but he didnt. I tried it again and he didnt pick and that was how I continued calling over and over again and my husband refused to pick my calls. Eventually he switched off the phone. I had to call mummy.
Mummy: Hello daughter how are you?
Me: mummy am fine, mummy where are you?
Mummy: sweetie are you okay? Am at home, are you fine?
Me: Mummy please come to st Maria’s clinic.
Mummy: clinic? Who is in the clinic? What are you doing in the clinic?
Me: Mummy please just come please.
Mummy: okay dear, am on my way.
Exactly thirty minutes, mummy was in the hospital. When she saw me she ran and held me as I wept in her arms.
Mummy: my child the devil has been defeated years ago and he cannot raise its ugly head against you.
Me: Mummy he slapped me, Isaiah slapped me. (I started crying again)
Mummy: its okay child, weep not my child.
Me: Mummy am pregnant, I’m 6weeks pregnant. The doctor just told me am pregnant.
Mummy: God be praised, I know He will never fail me. I prayed for you to get pregnant immediately after marriage and that is what he has done. God be praised my child.
Me: The doctor has said I will stay here for the next three days on bed rest, ive been trying to call my husband but he has refused to pick my calls. Mummy I dont know what is happening. I dont know what to do, I dont even know what I did wrong. Mummy please help me, please.
Mummy: Dont worry dear, I will go and see him. I think it is time I speak with him. Especially now that you are with child. He can’t be hitting you.
Me: mummy please talk with him please.
Mummy: I will child, now enough of the talk and rest, while I go home and prepare something for you to eat. Or have you eaten?
Me: no mom, it was my neighbour who brought me here. I haven’t eaten today.
Mummy: Dont worry dear I will come back. Rest now.
Me: Yes mom.
Mommy went over to my house over and over again but didnt meet my husband at home. She called him severally but if the phone runs twice it switches off. And so after several attempts to reach him and no avail, she sent him a text.
”My son how are you? I’ve been trying to reach you for sometime now but it seems you are currently engaged. Please we need to see, there are things I want to discuss with you. Meanwhile, call me when you get this text. Your wife is currently in the hospital”.
When mummy came to meet me in the hospital, she told me how her movement went and about the text she sent my husband. I was hopeful that when Isaiah sees mummy’s text he would call and hurry to come and see me. I was glad that mummy didn’t tell him of the pregnancy, I want to be the one to tell him, I want to watch the expression on his face. But first I decided to ask mummy.
Me: Mummy do you think Isaiah will be happy about our baby?
Mummy: of course, every man is excited to have a baby, so he will be.
Me: mummy I know he will regret hitting me, I will make him beg me and I will tell him he has to bribe me before I will forgive him.
Mummy: And what if he doesnt apologise or ask you to forgive him what will you do?
I suddenly became quiet, I haven’t thought of that.
Me: Mummy if he doesn’t say sorry, I won’t forgive him o, we will stay like that in the house. He hurt me, he hit a pregnant woman and so he should apologise .
Mummy: But he didnt know you were pregnant.
Me: even if he didnt know he wasn’t suppose to hit me so he has to apologise if not there won’t be peace in that house o.
Mummy: you are still a child my dear, there will be peace in that house. There will be peace in your house. Listen child in marriage no one is wrong or right. Both the man and the woman works together to get it right and build a successful home.
Me: But he should say sorry.
Mummy: do you know that the one who says sorry is the stronger and the wiser person?
Mummy: yes dear, the one who says sorry is wiser. Saying sorry does not make you weak, saying sorry is because you are more matured and you want peace.
Me: so what are you saying mom?
Mummy: I am saying if your husband does not say sorry to you say sorry to him. It doesn’t make you foolish, it doesn’t make you stupid, it makes you wiser, and when your marriage stands till the end it makes you a complete woman.
Me: mom, what are you saying? Where is my pride?
Mummy: In marriage dear, there is no pride. There is humility, submission and love. If you love your husband, if you love your home, if you love this baby you are now carrying then build your home. Do not give the devil a chance to win. Dont be like a foolish woman that destroys her home by her pride. Give everything and expect nothing in return. At the and you will win. That my dear is what marriage is.
Me: Mummy I dont have the strength for this.
Mummy: you are stronger than you think love and you have me here for support.
Me: thank you so much mom, I dunno what I’d do without you.
I smiled and hugged my mom in the most loving way ever!